It’s the 5th of January already, where is the time going? Felt like yesterday I was celebrating the start of 2017. At the age of 26 I am well aware that time moves at a rapid pace, does not sit still or wait for anyone. Therefore, I wanted to take a moment to reflect on what I have learnt in the last year, what I will continue to do this year and some goals (realistic ones) that I have set myself.
- Don’t neglect family and loved ones. In November, my family moved out of London to East Sussex. I didn’t think much of it at first, yes it felt very strange seeing my childhood home with a ‘for sale’ sign on the grass just outside the door, but nothing actually hit me until they were no longer there and not a 30 minute tube ride away. I neglected them when I knew they were close but soon came to the conclusion that I would have to make time if I wanted to see them. I now make sure to find the time to see them at least every two weeks and the moments are magical. I cherish every second we spend together and their new home although being completely different from where I grew up, feels like my home too. The same applies for my partner, our schedules are completely different therefore it can sometimes be quite tricky to spend quality time together, however we manage to make it work. I would love to spend every second of every day together, even if we would end up driving each other crazy. We have learnt to prioritise in our lives and give our time to what truly matters and is important, which brings me to my second point.
- Be selfish. As horrible as that may sound, I mean it in the nicest way possible, honest! When I say selfish, I don’t mean to not take into consideration other people, peoples feelings, only think about yourself and act as if the world revolves around you. That’s not what I mean. What I have learnt, is to prioritise the people that really deserve your time and cut out anything that is toxic and unhealthy to the relationship you have with yourself. So, be selfish, find some ME time, dedicate a day, an evening a week to yourself. Life gets so hectic, overwhelming with difficult situations and it’s so important to take a break from it all to dedicate time to yourself. Do a little pamper session, get your nails done, mediate, do a hardcore session at the gym, indulge yourself in the book you’ve been dying to read, visit an exhibition or an art galley. Whatever you choose to do, make sure its quality time between you and yourself.
- STOP COMPETING. Yes, I put this in capital letters as it has been one of my major issues for quite some time. I kept comparing myself to other people be it celebrities or just people around me. ‘I’m not skinny like her, ‘I don’t have money like her,’ I’m not successful like them’, I could keep going but I don’t want your eyes to glaze over. I slowly started to realise that this state of mind was extremely toxic and I needed to focus more on myself and not dwell on what other people are doing, earning etc.
- No one owes you anything. I have always been a firm believer in not having anyone hold my hand in any aspect of life, be it life itself, work, school. I hardly ask anyone for anything and I am extremely independent. Which is why I’m starting to put myself out there, without anyone’s help because, in actuality, no one owes you anything. No one is going to come knocking on your door with your dream job or a bag of cash. YOU have to go out there and get it. You need to put the work in. Get things done yourself because no one else is going to do it for you.
- You have no limits. It’s as simple as that. You have no limits. Be confident in what you want to achieve, set goals, set reminders. I’m sure you will be pleasantly surprised to find out your capabilities and what you are able to achieve. Satisfaction is the feeling you will get in return.
And now, a few goals I have set myself for 2018:
- Get out of bed when my alarm clock rings. I am NOT a morning person. Never have been. I could easily stay in bed until 1 o’clock in the afternoon and pay someone to go to work for me. However, I have come to the conclusion that this is not a good cycle. I lose so much day light where I could be getting things done, going to the gym, actually eating breakfast. Which is why I have now started to set my alarm clock back by 15 minutes everyday until I find a good medium. Of course I will allow myself a lie in once a week, but until then, stay tuned.
- Be smarter with my money. What’s that saying, shop til’ you drop? Ok, now take that saying and multiply it by one hundred. I love to shop. I love fashion and I love brands. Always have, probably since I could walk. It’s my comfort, soft spot. Whether it’s online or in person, I love to shop. I don’t have any dodgy habits, just this one. To shop. However, this year we have many up coming things that will require a lot of money, our wedding, buying a house and many more. Which is why I need to be more financially stable and learn to say no. Even to Louboutins 😦
- Prioritise what matters and cut out toxic things/people. Snip snip snip! My family and my partner receive all my time and attention. I have learnt to cut toxic people out of my life, it’s a slow and sometimes painful process but so worth it in the end. I started this last year and need to remember to continue to do this in the long run.
- Get myself to the gym. This is a really obvious one and probably on everyone’s list. Who actually likes going to the gym? I’m sure the gym fanatics have their off days too. My goal is to be more consistent. I find myself going for weeks and weeks, really putting in the work and then I just stop. I have no idea why but it’s most probably because I remember how comfortable life was before the gym and end up on my sofa eating a bag of kettle chips. I’m going to be more consistent by keeping my workout playlist up to date, setting goals and going in the mornings so I start my day on the right path and if I am then too tired in the evening, at least I already did my workout session in the morning and got it out of the way.
- Meal prepping. For obvious reasons, to save money, not constantly eat out, binge on unhealthy snacks and actually know what I am eating. There are plenty of amazing Meal Prep videos on YouTube which you can watch for inspiration and help you prepare your meals for the week.
So, these are my goals for 2018. I had a great time celebrating New Years, even if it’s not my favourite festivity. I sometimes feel as if it is so forced, there are so many high expectations and it is unnecessarily expensive. However, it’s an opportunity to wipe the slate clean and start afresh, even if it’s slightly contradictory in itself as you do enter each year with a massive hangover 😉
Sincerely, Steph x